HOW TO DEAL WITH: #TOOMUCHPDA
Get to Know Him
If you haven’t met your BFF’s new man, she might just be talking him up so you’re aware of how fabulous he is. There’s a simple solution to this problem: arrange a meet up so you can get to know him first-hand and discover all the things your bestie loves about him. If she sees the two of you hitting it off, she’ll be stoked that the two most important people in her life have formed a connection and might not feel the need to constantly bring up her ‘boyf’ in conversation. After the first meet, be sure to tell your bestie exactly what you loved about him and, even better, occasionally suggest that she bring him along when you meet up. As long as you and your friend have some alone time carved out together, there’s nothing wrong with making a big effort to include her new man in both of your lives.
If you’re sick of feeling like a third wheel, a double date is a great and fun way to spend time with your bestie without feeling like a ring-in. If you’re in a relationship, organise dinner and drinks with your respective men and have a fun night out with the four of you. If you’re single, it’s a great opportunity to get set up on a blind date! There’s nothing better than having your friend’s support: if the date goes well, she’ll know exactly when to leave you alone for some quiet time, and if it’s going downhill faster than a party at Charlie Sheen’s house, she’ll be able to step in and save you from your date’s terrible chat.
If you still feel like your best friend’s relationship is wayyyy too in your face, it’s best to suggest a girl’s night where you and your best girlfriends can all get dressed up, go out and kick up your heels without worrying about your boyfriends tagging along. Book a table at a cute bar for girlie cocktails and a chat over a bottle of wine and it will feel just like the old days again!
The fact of the matter is, a lot of women disappear into their shell slightly when they’re in a relationship and are quite happy to spend the weekends Netflix and chilling with their respective partners. It only becomes an issue when your bestie doesn’t seem interested in hanging out with you anymore. If this is the case, it’s time to move onto greener pastures! After all, boys will come and go but friendships are forever…